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Hot Topics: 3 questions about love & marriage

So far this week I have only answered one question per day from my Hot Topics series, but today I am going to cover three questions, all about love and marriage. Here are three of your submitted questions and the answers found in God’s Word:

What's wrong with people living together before marriage?

One of the most important principles that we will ever discover when it comes to relationships is this: Marriage should be honored by all. Where do we find this principle? Hebrews 13:4: “Marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral.”

Should married people honor marriage? Yes.

Should single people honor marriage? Yes.

If, therefore, marriage should be honored by all, and I am not married, I am single, then, here’s the principle: I will wait until marriage to share the intimate blessing of marriage. Why? Because there are certain things reserved for marriage, and marriage should be honored by all.


Does the Bible forbid interracial marriage?

This is a great question. The answer is no. It does not.

Some people will quote Deuteronomy 7:3 when one group took over another group and God said, “Do not intermarry with them, do not give your daughters to their sons, or take their daughters for your sons.” People say that God was saying not to marry interracially. But verse 4 gives the key to the verse where it says: “For they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods.” So God wasn’t talking about races as much as he was talking about faiths.

In fact, there are many examples of interracial marriage in the Bible. Numbers 12 says that Moses married an Ethiopian woman. His brother and sister were upset about it, but God wasn’t. And Rahab and Ruth were both Gentiles and yet they are mentioned in the genealogy of Christ. So God isn’t concerned with skin color or where someone was born. He wants to know if they have placed their faith in Christ.


Why did God allow men in the Bible to have multiple wives?

It has been God’s standard since the beginning of time (Adam and Eve) for marriage to be between one man and one woman. When God created Adam, He gave him one single wife – not multiple wives. The original marriage relationship reveals God’s intention for all marriages.

Abraham, Jacob, David, and Solomon all had multiple wives. But it must be clearly stated that just because they had multiple wives, that doesn’t make it right! At no time does God condone or place His “seal of approval” upon the polygamous practices of these men. In fact, God warned Solomon well in advance to NOT practice polygamy.

Abraham’s household was fractured because of jealousy between Hagar and Sarah. Jacob also endured spousal rivalry. David’s adulterous tendencies were his downfall, as he approached Bathsheba. Solomon’s many wives were a snare to him and drew him into idol worship. Polygamy only brings problems!


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